Jason (Dan)

I met him on OKC. His screen name is Jason. But he later told me his name is Dan and Jason is his middle name. (This seems to be a common occurance?) We chatted online for months. Seriously, 3 months. Sometimes we would email once a day. And sometimes we wouldn't email for several days or a week. But we have been talking for a long time. I can't tell you much about him though.

He lost his wife and baby girl in a drunk driving accident years ago. That accident left him with some physical problems of his own. He works from home and doesn't drive. I have no idea about the rest of his fmaily. Parents? Siblings? all of that I don't know anything about. Most of our chats were about politics. The election. And his negative view about Republicans.

Most of the time during our emails I was trying to figure out where he was coming from and where he was going. His writing skips around A LOT. Most the the emails are a sort of jumbled mess. And I hung in for so long because I was just trying to figure him out. I was also wondering what he would be like to talk in person. Would he still be so disjointed?? I never made it that far. We did exchange numbers but still only texted. His texts were just as bad and just as random. Here are a few examples:


Ex. 1) I am not quite sure why I skipped from religion to sex. I am tired of the assumption (though sadly true for majority of guys looking to hook up) I thought I had reached an age where sex wasnt my assumed sole motive, yet I still have to defend that and I guess I got tired of this assumption. I am offended by the Republican party and the recent definition of rape. What I don't understand is how Republican women can support this party. Since 2010 swing to republicans, several hundred new abortion laws were introduced at state level. In Arizona, you are pregnant two Weeks before sex. personhood scares me.Romney's sons would be guilty under this law. They used invitro and surrogates to give him grandchildren. The unused fertilized eggs are destroyed and under personhood, that is murder. The right wants to protect a zygote, but after he/she is, born, no health care and cut education and then send them to fabricated wars like Iraq. I have never seen a campaign that lies so blatantly, like we didn't build it,medicare cuts that affect providers, not beneficiaries. My mother is on medicare and if republicans win, she will lose the donut hole in, prescription coverage and free preventative visits. I am upset that men don't seem bothered by taking a woman's right to choose with their bodies. Republicans want government out of their lives, but it is ok for forced vaginal ultrasounds and government control of a women's body is totally different

Ex 2) I am down a slimmest possibility meeting tomorrow, but if the stars align and you don't have the kids, is there is a small possibility that we may be able to meet somewhere? I am NOT necessarily asking you out tomorrow night but I am asking if the stars aligned, I may ask you if it is possible. I give it a 20 perent chance of everything coming together. My feelings will not be hurt if the answer was no. I am so ask if the answer is yes that with the 80 percent chance of no that you feel the same way if I can't go


Besides the ramblings he had some other issues that I couldn't reconcile. He wasn't very confident. Seemed to need approval on an almost contsant basis. Which was totally contrary to his online profile where he rated himself as better and smarter than most people. (No he didn't say it like that sounding all concieted - it was in some OKC questions) I was growing tired of reassuring him in nearly every email that what he said wasn't hurting my feeling or scaring me off in anyway.

He also was still on pain killers. He alluded that his accident was a decade ago. I don't know for sure cuz it wasn't something we talked about a lot. But I know it was some time ago and it bothered me that he was still so dependent on narcotics. Now, I know nothing abut his pain. But it just seems to me that you don't want to be taking those long term. And because he is taking narcotics on a regular basis he doesn't drive. Can't drive. Which was a lot of pressure on me since he lives on the opposit side of the city. A good hour drive from me.

In the end I just couldn't follow his thinking. Our conversations progressed off of politics and into a more sexual nature and even then it was so hard to follow. His last texts from this past weekend were so random (at 530am) I just didn't even know how to answer him. So I didn't. And he immediatly said he wouldn't contact me again. And that was that.